Long Distance Relationship(LDR) is a hard nut to crack.I know I haven't done Ph.D in "Love psychology" but have gone through that practically.Life is not so rosy for most of the couples in LDR. If its an LDR from the beginning itself, its less problematic but if it becomes LDR from same city relationship, it's gonna be tipsy-topsy-curvy road for them. When people are in relationship, they tend to develop certain kind of expectations, which people say should not exist in true love, but that's not true. A relationship can not even exist without expectations. Expectations can be big or small but they do exist. These small expectations cause huge turn around in relationships.
When you are residing in the same city or town or whatever, you tend to meet each other personally. While talking to each other, unintentionally you are also observing their emotions, expressions, you have a brief idea of what other person is going through at that point of time - happiness, sadness, irritation, good mood, bad mood, terrible, etc. So when ever there is an argument or a clash, these emotions play a vital role in reviving the relation and taking it back to normalcy.
When you are not staying in the same city, all you can do is talk over call or probably a video chat but meeting frequently becomes practically difficult economically and physically unless you are Ambanis or Tatas or of that level.
This is where the problem starts. When a girl calls you, she expects you to listen to her day to day routines, be with her virtually in everything she says, understand her troubles of the day, her joys of the day, listen about her friends, her enemies, her friend's friends. She expects you to reciprocate to her, talk to her, use those three words which she dies for, talk about your day's adventures or boredom, BUT TALK. For most of the guys, after a hectic day, having a beer, watching sports, hanging out etc. are the ways to vent out frustration and feel relaxed. Of course they too love talking to their girls but for them, even short talks with less frequency are worthy and makes their love grow stronger. But what they don't understand is that the options which are open for guys, might not be open for girls. She might have not gone out with her friends since the relationship started and going now would be impossible. She might not be allowed to have a beer with her friend. She might not be allowed to go late night with her friends and feel good just like you do. Thus talking to you is the only and best option available to her. I know in the current scenario, time is some thing too much to be asked for but make sure you give that time to her else you will only have "time" in future and not her.
If any issue arises between them, both of them really can not understand what other person has gone through during that period or just before that, they might have had an argument at office , home, friends any where.
Having said that above, for girls also its equally important to understand that a guy might not be able to give his time to you, but he still loves you. He is also struggling without you and waiting desperately for your next meet. So next time, if you face any such situation, relax and understand that other person is in need of love, care, support, motivation thats it.
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When you are residing in the same city or town or whatever, you tend to meet each other personally. While talking to each other, unintentionally you are also observing their emotions, expressions, you have a brief idea of what other person is going through at that point of time - happiness, sadness, irritation, good mood, bad mood, terrible, etc. So when ever there is an argument or a clash, these emotions play a vital role in reviving the relation and taking it back to normalcy.
When you are not staying in the same city, all you can do is talk over call or probably a video chat but meeting frequently becomes practically difficult economically and physically unless you are Ambanis or Tatas or of that level.
This is where the problem starts. When a girl calls you, she expects you to listen to her day to day routines, be with her virtually in everything she says, understand her troubles of the day, her joys of the day, listen about her friends, her enemies, her friend's friends. She expects you to reciprocate to her, talk to her, use those three words which she dies for, talk about your day's adventures or boredom, BUT TALK. For most of the guys, after a hectic day, having a beer, watching sports, hanging out etc. are the ways to vent out frustration and feel relaxed. Of course they too love talking to their girls but for them, even short talks with less frequency are worthy and makes their love grow stronger. But what they don't understand is that the options which are open for guys, might not be open for girls. She might have not gone out with her friends since the relationship started and going now would be impossible. She might not be allowed to have a beer with her friend. She might not be allowed to go late night with her friends and feel good just like you do. Thus talking to you is the only and best option available to her. I know in the current scenario, time is some thing too much to be asked for but make sure you give that time to her else you will only have "time" in future and not her.
If any issue arises between them, both of them really can not understand what other person has gone through during that period or just before that, they might have had an argument at office , home, friends any where.
Having said that above, for girls also its equally important to understand that a guy might not be able to give his time to you, but he still loves you. He is also struggling without you and waiting desperately for your next meet. So next time, if you face any such situation, relax and understand that other person is in need of love, care, support, motivation thats it.
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